Close your eyes…
Remember the first time you laid eyes on your newborn baby?
Remember her smell?
Remember the inescapable force that kept your lips pressed to his peach fuzz head?
Now imagine that no matter how hard you tried, no matter how many tests, no matter how many painful injections you endured you were never able to reach the ultimate utopia of motherhood.
Imagine watching all your friends weep tears of joy as they witnessed first after first. Trying to share their elation. Trying to withhold the tears. Trying to not make it about your “failure”.
I can’t imagine this heartbreak. Pregnancy has come easy for me, however discretion does not. At my 10yr high school reunion I was 32 wks pregnant with Paisley. Me and everyone else there asked a friend when her and her husband were going to have children.
The assumption was made that they were just “living it up”, traveling the world, enjoying their freedom. Almost 3 years later I discovered how wrong I was. My friend had in fact endured years (YEARS!) of infertility treatments with no success.
When I learned of her adoption pursuit and the financial goals they had, I immediately knew that I could help. God has blessed me with this amazing blog and 1 1/2 yrs ago He gave me the endurance I needed to write the Ultimate Guide to Cloth Diapers.
For the month of July (at the earliest 
I reserve the right to continue!) my husband and I would be honored to donate ALL proceeds from ebook sales to Not For Crybabies.
“Not For Crybabies was created to help us raise funds to
fulfill our dream of becoming parents. With the rising
cost of adoption and the declining economy, it has
become harder and harder for prospective adoptive
parents to fund the adoption process. With your help,
we will become a complete family and maybe even help
another adoptive family realize their dreams!”
To purchase the Ultimate Guide to Cloth Diapers click HERE!
If you already have a copy and don’t know someone who would enjoy it, please feel free to make a donation directly to Not For Crybabies. There is a “donate” button at the bottom of the product page, let them know you came from All About Cloth Diapers.
September 4, 2009 at 9:00 pm
Nicole, thank you for asking! I really need to update everyone on the amazing miracles that have transpired in my friend's life! The donation period has ended and I will add an update in the next post.
September 4, 2009 at 6:01 pm
it's now September… are the proceeds still going to Not for Crybabies?
July 8, 2009 at 7:30 am
I suffer from PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome), a leading cause of infertility. I was so worried that I would never have a baby since right now adoption is simply not possible. Many years of struggle and stress finally lead to a surprise natural conception and a difficult pregnancy. Our baby girl is 9 months old now and so worth all that I went through to have her and the many, many years I waited for her. Infertility is so painful there is no description that can match it, but you have done a great job of spelling it out for those who don’t know that painful road.
July 7, 2009 at 1:30 am
Thank you for being one of the few “fertile folk” who get it. It took 2 years and many tears before we conceived our wonderful son- and I treasure every whiff of his peach-fuzz head.
Thank you as well for the suggestion of Bac-out. It has fixed our problems with odor-retaining PUL in our Bumgenius dipes.
July 2, 2009 at 6:49 pm
Thank you so much for supporting Jess and Dave. Jess is an amazing sister and will be an even more amazing mom thanks to people like you.
July 2, 2009 at 5:26 am
I too am a Mommy who tried and endured Infertility treatment for well over 8 years… I was finally able to conceive my son now 3 and my baby girl (almost 1)… I have learned never to judge those without children because you never know how they are feeling deep in there heart about not being parents, not having children… I would silently cry every time I heard the wonderful news of one of my friends conception… I secretly “hated” them for it… But, I never let it show… And believe me this is from person experience, those who tell you they were happy and really didn’t want children “right now” are quietly dying inside to be that Mom (or Dad) they have always dreamed they could be…
July 2, 2009 at 3:48 am
Hello Sarah! OH MY GOSH! This is crazy! What a small world, huh!? Thank you to everyone for your support. We are just completely overwhelmed and so, so grateful! Adoption is such a miracle and we are very blessed by this journey!
July 2, 2009 at 2:20 am
Autumn!! Jess and Dave are personal friends of ours!! Thank you so much for supporting their cause!! This is so great of you!! I used to teach with Jessica and her Hubby Dave is my husband’s cousin’s cousin!! What a small world!!!
July 2, 2009 at 3:05 am
@Sarah: wow! jess and i went to high school together.
July 2, 2009 at 2:16 am
What a great idea! I have had 2 very close friends and several acquaintances struggle with infertility. I initially assumed the same…people were “living it up” and postponing having children, but after seeing my friend go through the process of infertility treatments (while painfully dealing with questions from well meaning but ignorant people!) and ultimately adoption, I realize how quickly we are to judge and how wrong we often are!
July 2, 2009 at 2:10 am
i had years of fertility issues too, it’s heart wrenching. i now have three (the youngest in cloth diapers) i truly consider each of them a miracle.
thanks for bringing attention to this issue!
July 2, 2009 at 12:50 am
Autumn you’re amazing. Thank you Thank you Thank you. I AM one of those mothers you speak of. And by the grace of God my husband and I were blessed with our sweet daughter by the miracle of adoption — shes now 9months old and a CD-wearin babe! It has been financially trying, but incredibly worth it. Motherhood is amazingly priceless, and everyone deserves the right to smell that sweet smell, and hear “mama” uttered from their little one. Thank you for helping to bless another family.
July 1, 2009 at 8:49 pm
you have such a good heart.
July 1, 2009 at 7:53 pm
You’re amazing mama! If we had anything to spare, I’d be all over it, but we’re barely getting by ourselves. As soon as things pick up for us, I’d be more than happy to help! God bless!