I had always read of women who felt the presence of the Lord during labor and who could actually relax their body and feel the baby moving along with just a bit of doubt that it was possible. I mean labor hurt and pushing was just flat out disgustingly horrendous. With that said…
On Wednesday December 13th, officially 41 weeks, I started doing everything I could to get this baby out. I did the six hours of homeopathics and took so much EPO I thought surely this baby will just slip out–but no.
Thursday I thought what the heck, I’ll do the homeopathics again and finish off the bottle of EPO. Still no contractions.
At 3pm Haley brought me the jump rope and the poor girl just couldn’t do it so I had to show her how.
Finally a sign, albeit not the most impending sign, my mucous plug dislodged. I was excited that something had happened. I went and took a little nap.
About 6:30 after making enchiladas I went to turn on Wheel of Fortune and wait for Michael to get home. Before I could turn it on I felt that pinching of dilation in my cervix and decided to squat so the head would move down.
Never felt that before. Definately a cool experience to feel your water break. I was a little scared of what that meant for the intensity of ctx to come since I had never labored without my waters intact.
But more than scared I felt so much excitement. I had told Michael to stop and get some wine and/or beer on the way home but quickly called him to tell him to come straight home. He was so excited! I had expected to be feeling ctx right away but that didn’t happen.
I started feeling some ctx about 10pm but they were only 10 minutes apart. I was able to go to sleep at 10:30 and sleep for a couple of hours.
At 1:15 the ctx started becoming 6 minutes apart. I called the midwife and my mom telling them they should make their way over, this was at 2:45. It would take the midwife and her asst. about 1 1/2 hour to get to me.
After I made those calls the ctx went to about 3 minutes apart. When Hillary (midwife) arrived I asked if it was a good time to try out the bath, which I had wanted to attempt this time.
However, I soon discovered that water birth is not for everyone. I mean a bath is relaxing but I was not interested in relaxing to the point of stopping ctx! I got out and immediately had a monster double ctx.
Michael and I went into the bedroom where the midwives were unpacking and I had Hillary check me. She said I was a very stretchy 8 and that if I felt the urge to push to go ahead. (I want to say that this made me feel so glad to have Hillary as my midwife! For the other 2 births I remember having to wait and wait until I was at that magic 10 and then I was “allowed” to push. How nice to be given the freedom to listen to my body and dictate the direction of my labor on my own. God has been so good to me when it comes to midwives…always providing the right one for each child!)
So after having a couple of ctx standing up beside the bed I felt like I could push. Michael and I were left alone in the room after I was checked and they returned when they heard my moans turn to “pushy”. I weakly pushed 2 times standing up and quickly voiced that I wanted to lay back on the bed.
This was hard for me to say because I am so anti-supine when it comes to birth. But this is what I needed at this time. I reclined back on a couple of pillows, my mom behind me and Michael beside me. I began to push on the next ctx and got a huge cramp in my left gluteal. I got a nice butt massage :) and on the next ctx got the cramp again!
I had a mini-panic and asked why it was happening. They suggested I roll on my left side and push that way. YEAH! That position felt good and very easy to get traction when pushing.
This stage of labor was so different this time as compared to the first 2. After every ctx I literally took a nap! I kept asking “is this okay?”. I thought if I slept it would make labor stop…like it would stop at this point! I pushed for a few ctx then I got to that point where you say “I can’t do this!”.
I remember Hillary saying those last 2 inches feel so long. After that I realized that I didn’t have far to go and if I pushed really hard my baby would be out. I told my mom to go get the scripture and start reading to me. I repeated over and over “do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” (2chron 20:17).
I never knew how powerful scripture would be during labor. Because of the scripture I prayed on I was able to push very efficiently. The next push they told me they could see the head. I was shocked. Sweat was literally pouring off of me!!
I told Michael to go get Haley. My mom got her and put her by my head. Right when she got there it hurt super bad and I started to say a bad word but thankfully I was in control of my tongue and stopped it. (This is evidence to me of the spiritual growth I have experienced over the years. With Haley’s birth I was completely out of control of my tongue and with Haven although better I still cussed when it got too difficult. I have prayed a lot over the years on scripture that talks about the tongue. You never really realize the progress you’ve made until you are put into a highly stressful situation. Praise God!)
The next ctx I pushed the head out slightly and then stopped. I didn’t know the head was almost out and Hillary calmly said “why don’t you push a little more and get the head out.”
At that point I was determined to make these my last pushes. I pushed and pushed and pushed (there was no ctx at this pt) and out the baby came. Because I was so focused I didn’t realize that there was quite a bit of manuvering going on with the baby.
Apparently the shoulders wouldn’t turn so Hillary tried to help but I ended up pushing the shoulders out transverse. You can imagine my poor husbands astonishment at all this seeing as he is a chiropractor!
But the first adjustment took place shortly after all that twisting! It was almost immediately that I asked what it was.
“It’s a girl!”
I knew all along it was another princess. This whole time Haley never said a word, but her eyes were as big as half dollars! We had a name picked out for a girl and announced her as Paisley Elizabeth.
Haley got to cut the cord. She did so good, she jumped a little when she saw blood (I think she thought she hurt her baby sister).
I held Paisley for a long time before I just had to know how much she weighed. This whole pregnancy I felt small and was certain she would be around 7 1/2lbs. Everyone in the room made their guesses and we were all surprised to find she actually weighed 8 lbs 12 oz.
Her other measurements were: head 14 3/4″, length 20 1/2″. Paisley surprised me again when she started nursing right away. Neither Haley nor Haven nursed for the first 24 hours.
Paisley is now 3 weeks old and life has been so fun. With 1 and even 2 kids it wasn’t that much of an adjustment. I am finding that with 3 I don’t have enough time in the day! At the end of the day I have laundry and dishes still left to do and that never happened before Paisley.
But I am sure I will develop a routine once Paisley is older. She is an awesome sleeper and nurser…what more could I ask for?!
Scripture used in labor:
*Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. 2Chronicles 20:17
*I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands. Psalm 119:10
*Jesus looked at them and said,”with man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.” Mark 10:27
*…God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” Hebrews 13: 5-6
*But he said to me,”My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
*The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth. He fulfills the desires of those who fear him; he hears their cry and saves them. Psalm 145: 18-19