Does one ever truly figure out any parenting chore? And even if you think you have, wait until the next child comes along and you discover you have absolutely nothing figured out. Potty training is an excellent example of such a chore.
Yes the word “chore” carries with it a negative connotation, but have you ever known someone to enjoy the discipline it takes on our part to train a child to go on a potty. I haven’t. It isn’t something I look forward to…except when I’m changing a really disgusting poopy diaper. Then I’m way ready for potty training to commence.
I have to admit that potty training my first was fairly easy. She figured it out quickly but had a problem with temper tantrum accidents (and not the easy to clean up pee-pee ones). With my son I had to use totally different techniques. You can’t force him to do anything. So I relaxed and waited. He was ready about 2 months after he turned 3…much to my mother-in-laws dismay.
But again the cleaning up of poopy accidents is something I just have to figure out how to avoid. I know an accident here and there is going to happen but I know there is an easier way. So, on the cusp of my third child perhaps entering the potty training phase I resolved to find the potty training how-to, step-by-step, tell-all manual.
In my research I came across this audio potty training guide, Potty Training Secrets Exposed. It is written by a doctor (PhD Med.) and his wife. In his quest to find information while potty training their oldest child he discovered a great deficit in the “how-to potty train” department. As I read through his website this section jumped out at me:
In developing countries, the vast majority of children are potty trained by the age of 18 months to 2 years. This was true also for Western countries, 50 or more years ago:
*Studies released by Harvard University in 1956 revealed that 80% of American kids were potty trained by the age of 2 years
*Nowadays in the Western world, the age at which just 50% of toddlers are trained is close to 3, and 26% of children are still not trained by the age of 4!
Why is this?
The answer that I discovered, is what I term “Diaper Dependence”.
You see, the only really significant change to have occurred in the toddler world over the last 50 years or so in developed countries, is the shift from wearing uncomfortable cloth diapers to the modern disposable diaper. The technology in disposable diapers has increased to the extent that young toddlers today have No Concept of the feeling of being wet, so they don’t have an incentive to get out of them!
Cloth diapers we use aren’t exactly uncomfortable but you get the point.
I am a sponge at this point. I am ready to soak up any and all tips that will assist me in this journey. If I can do it in less than the 6 months it’s averaged for the first two–sign me up! If you have an ebook, book, or kernal of advice that worked for you please share it in the comments.
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